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January 26th, 2011

Food shopping online…The very idea. I like to squeeze my fruit, thank you!

Everyone starts off the New Year trying to make resolutions that they hope they will keep. A lot of people like to join a gym and get fit, others perhaps cut out the fattening food that they love so much but does them so much harm. Others simply try and change the way in which they behave. This January I think a lot of families including ourselves will be resolving to use their money more wisely. Perhaps more wisely than they had done in the past. Now this is really nothing new for us especially over the last few years. Having a toddler means that there is usually less money floating about and when it does it always requires a little bit more thinking through when it comes to making purchases for various things. However in the current economic climate and the ever so slight threat that things are not going to be great in January I do think that we and everybody else will be thinking very hard about the next penny that we spend. One aspect in our expenditure where we have made considerable changes is that in the way we do our weekly food shopping. In the past I have found myself driving to the local supermarket on my way home from work to pick up a few things that would probably not amount to any more than say for instance £8. However I am the supermarket managers dream. I fall for all the psychological tricks and tips that they use to get customers to buy all the things that they don’t really need but that the supermarket really wants to sell. Whilst these things are usually aimed at children so that they can pester their put on parents I seem to fall for them too. This probably says something about me and my psychological position in life or the fact that I just happen to be a man, I really don’t know. The point is I end up spending not £8 pounds but usually double trouble that. This is illustrated beautifully by the state of our credit card statement every month. My wife and I have a credit card which goes to the same account where we put all of the family spending on. We choose to pay the balance back in full every month so therefore we do not pay any interest. I am very proud of the fact that we have never paid a penny in interest for years and years and years. This is on principle of the fact that banks make enough money out of us and have lost enough of our money in recent years so I don’t feel it appropriate that I should give them any more money that they can put a further risk. Apart from the moral standpoint this is also good principle on household finances. Interest payment on credit card can be very high and thankfully we have not been in the position where we need to pay that back on top of the other expenditure that we have incurred. However the most worrying aspect of all of the supermarket shopping I seem to be doing is not so much the frequency in which I go to these places but the money that is being spent inside of them. So my wife and I sat down and devised a strategy based on what was in front of us on the statement. It was clearly obvious that there were far too many trips to the supermarket. This had a knock-on effect on the cost of actually having to use petrol to drive to these places plus the usual cost of buying various bits and pieces that really we did not need plus there was also the time to take into consideration. So, do we therefore need to make a case for planning what we needed seven days in advance? Writing a list of everything and physically going to the supermarket buying exactly what was on the list and not straying from it one bit was, I found, a very difficult thing to do. Supermarkets and their managers are very very good in getting their customers to get the things that they don’t really need which has clearly been obvious from my experience. So, perhaps the answer lay online.

We’ve opted to go straight to Tesco.com for our first online shopping experience. This was largely due to the fact that we seem to do a lot of shopping Tesco anyway and that a lot of our favourites were saved on our Clubcard. This proved to be a great advantage when it came to ordering the things that we normally would buy anyway. The first and second online shops can take a little while where you find all the things that you want. Some things are not the places where you would normally expect them to be and it is tempting to just close the whole thing down and walk away. We decided that we would persevere and I’m so glad we did. We are now around about 8 months into this online shopping and it really works for us as a family. We have become very good at planning seven days ahead what we’re going to eat including food to take to work and things for our three-year-old. We factor in that it is going to cost us money for the privilege of having the stuff delivered which at the minute averages around about five pounds per delivery which is around £20. However this is a pretty good trade-off. I no longer have to drive to the supermarket in all kinds of weather and struggle with bags of heavy groceries in and out of the car. There was also the time aspect of things as well. If I were to do a full weekly shop at the supermarket I could very easily take two hours out of my evening in which to do so. And I think supermarkets know this is a big constraint on people too. They have made it very easy for customers to place orders with them online. Obviously, using the computer in the our spare room is a very comfortable with do our weekly food shopping. But it is now possible to use your iPhone and the free downloadable app that Tesco have developed in order to comfortably do your shopping from the comfort of your settee. Initially I was very sceptical about this but it really does work very well. All of this does lead to a very positive endpoint for us. We no longer buy any of the things that we really don’t need but only get the things we definitely do. We are also very good now scoring for the special offers and buy one get one free offers as they are very easy to find online then you know where to look for them. Our monthly shopping bills now are around about £200 per month in comparison with a bill of around about £400 per month when I was driving to the supermarket on my way home from work. However this is just one aspect of the strategy. The other aspect is actually what we do with the ingredients when we get them. This has required a complete overhaul on the way we eat and the way we cook as a family. I shall save some of my pearls of wisdom for the next blog post. The only thing is they’re not really secrets they are complete common sense that have been publicised by celebrity chefs and money experts alike. However I tend to take a lead from real people and families in a similar situation. If they can do it then so can we. I am actually quite ashamed that we did not do this sooner.

August 24th, 2010

The Great British Staycation – there’s always something to smile about!

 Today I read an article in the Telegraph today by Lucy Cavendish entitled “Staycations? There’s nothing to smile about”

I felt slightly unhappy at the article and also little bit sad that the author had a pretty poor holiday. As you are aware familiesrecommend has been championing the great british staycation all Summer and the British public seem to be enjoying it too. From our own family staycation and day trips to our guest bloggers trip to Cornwall to the high numbers of people visiting our site looking for inspiration for things to do in the UK to the hundreds of reviews we’ve recieved – everyone seems to be having a nice time. So what I want to say, to Lucy Cavendish is this…

I am sorry you had a pretty rubbish holiday, that it rained and it was expensive and the fellow staycationers didn’t speak to you. (BTW did you speak to them?)

I agree the weather in the UK can be pants. Read our Butlins blog from June, it rained most of the time we were there, but it didn’t spoil our fun. Yes, industry do try to sell us sunny days, building sandcastles and eating cream cakes but you must know from normal life in the UK you have to be prepared for all eventualities. At some point it’s likely to rain. FACT. 

When we staycation (and as we have three year old, the idea of anything longer than a 1 hour flight is not conceivable) we plan our days based on the weather forecast the night before. I guess I want to stand up for the Great British holiday. I’ve been to some lovely places in the world where we’ve expected lovely sunny weather but had awful torrential rain. It happens everywhere. But you make the best of it. You have to.

For example our trip to California last year we would have expected it to be hot and dry, I mean California, bordering Mexico, its going to be hot and dry!  But it wasn’t. It was cold and misty and we had rain like they hadn’t seen for years. It didn’t put us off, we just unpacked our waterproofs and the rain cover for the pram (being good Brits, we came prepared) and headed to Muir Woods to see the Giant Redwoods. The place was pretty empty and although we would have much more preferred to see them when it was dry it didn’t spoil the experience of being in an amazing place. In fact lots of Californians asked where we got our son’s rain cover from (and funnily enough the parasol when the sun did eventually come out – but thats a whole other story). Now when it’s pouring at home we say “it’s like Muir Woods out there!”

Ok we don't look all tanned and glamorous, but hey we are still having a nice time!

And Lucy, I also agree that bad weather can ruin what was a planned and looked forward to holiday and will put you off returning. It’s happened to me. My husband and I travelled to a European island in 2007 for a hot beach holiday. A 7 night stay and it rained consistently for 5 of the 7 days. We were in a hotel in the middle of nowhere and me being pregnant couldn’t even drown my sorrows in the hotel bar. In fact it was such an awful trip that we don’t even mention the name of the island anymore. It’s officially known in our household as the island with no name. So I do sympathise when holidays are ruined by the weather. But we didn’t expect it on the Island with no name. But we probably would expect it holidaying in the UK.  Yes there are issues with our weather, but isn’t that part of the trip? When we travel on holiday we always make sure we have a few ideas up our sleeve for good indoor activities and if all else fails we get wet.

The comments on the website relating to your article, seem to have the same sentiment as me. Yes, rain can spoil a holiday if you let it. Just be prepared for the worst and you might find you actually enjoy yourself. And next time (because I hope there is a next time ) you staycation, check out www.familiesrecommend.co.uk for some ideas of ‘rainy day activities’!

Sarah, www.familiesrecommend.co.uk

You can read Lucy’s article here: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/travel/familyholidays/7960345/Staycations-Theres-nothing-to-smile-about.html

August 5th, 2010

And the winner is…

 

It’s been an exciting week for familiesrecommend.co.uk.

Earlier this week we found out that we’d be shortlisted for the final of the National Remote Worker Awards sponsored by BT Business. These awards celebrate the businesses that are run from home or employ staff on a remote / flexible basis. We were pretty excited in June when we were told we made the semi finals, but to reach the finals is something else. Anyway, we been busy getting organised for this and now have our tickets booked, hotel room and rail travel sorted, baby sitter arranged – all we need to do now is attend and meet all the other finalists, special guests and the media.

We are not sure of the total number of people who will be there or even how many other businesses we are up against, but from the businesses that we’ve been tweeting to about it, there is some great competition, so we just don’t know how we will fair. However, we are both looking forward to the event, and a night away in London is an additional bonus.

 

Sarah found out she was a semi finalist for the 2010 Mumpreneur awards. Unfortunately she didn’t make the final, but she’s very pleased that she managed to get down to the final 12 or so in her category. She’ll be attending the awards in September and meeting lots of likeminded business mums.

We could never have gone this far without our brilliant users. Familiesrecommend is only as good as the content that it receives and our thanks go out to everyone for making our site worthy of running for an award. Fingers crossed that an upcoming post will bring good news!

August 4th, 2010

I am flattered!

You may remember a little while ago I posted on the blog a logo and blurb for a website called Dadtalk.co.uk. I found it to be an interesting site and thought that other people might too. I decided to contact them to see if they would like me to write something for their blog. They responded by not only saying a big fat YES but they asked if I could put something together over the next 4 Mondays in August….on Staycationing! Something I have a bit of experience in. Needless to say I have jumped at the chance. You can read my first post by clicking the link here and I will be on their site over the coming three Mondays in August.
Thank you very much Dadtalk.co.uk. I am delighted!

July 4th, 2010

A great resource for us Daddies. Because we’re worth it!

I recently stumbled upon a great website whilst mindlessly surfing. There are a ton of websites that are aimed at the “Yummy Mummies” and it was great to see something just for us ”Delectable Daddies”  for a change. It is called Dadtalk. A quick e mail later and I have permission to publish a logo and a blurb to match. Thanks Melanie.

“DadTalk is a social networking site for any man in a fathering role. DadTalk provides a place for dads to talk and share the journey of fatherhood; the highs, lows, and downright funny moments – from last nights’ football to helping kids with homework and anything in between. You’ll get no nonsense advice from trained moderators, free legal and financial advice, news, articles, videos and podcasts. With the option to sign up to thought provoking daily tips, DadTalk aims to increase fun and communication for all. DadTalk encourages Dads that they DO matter, and CAN aspire to pass on a better future to their kids.”

Not wishing to judge people by my own standards, but blokes are rubbish at asking for help or admitting that they dont know. Ask any self respecting male driver of a motor vehicle. Armed with a map, satellite navigation and a geography graduate in the passenger seat and I fear that the kind offer of help will be refused in order for the driver to waste a bit more petrol trying to find that out of town Ikea. But then again some things in life are more important and this is where Dadtalk fits in. Dip in and out. A great site that I am happy to tell people about.

Lee

May 9th, 2010

If only the leaders had taken my advice on a family day out…

Oh well. After a month on the road, it seems that all of the door knocking and baby kissing has not actually achieved anything concrete. Recently I posted how I contacted each of the hopefuls with details of Familiesrecommend.co.uk. Replies were forthcoming and they were not the usual instant replies that you get from automated servers. I had to wait days for the replies. I suspect that all three of them were going over the site carefully before instructing their people to e mail me. None of the “Westminster Trio” would have been brave enough to take an afternoon off incase the other two steamed in and stole some thunder. As it now stands it is not so much thunder that would have been stolen but perhaps a light burst of drizzle.  With the benefit of hindsight the leaders probably could have taken an afternoon off with their families as it would not have made the blindest bit of difference. But that is hindsight for you. Always helpful after the event. I suspect that in the coming days the pace is going to pick up and there will be one family with a lot more time on their hands than they had last week. Which one though?

May 1st, 2010

Childrens activities and places to go for the election hopefuls. The results are in!

I recently contacted our election hopefuls with help on how they could spend their free time in the middle of campaigning. Working long hours and being away from their families meant that family days out and childrens activities in general might be in shorter supply. I can now tell you that all three leaders, Mr Brown, Mr Clegg and Mr Cameron have all e mailed me back. I do not think that is appropriate to publish the e mails that they have sent through as they were clearly for my eyes only and not for everyone else to read. The main theme through all of them was that my e mail had been passed on to the respective leaders and that they were aware of familiesrecommend. Mr Brown might have already had a heads up through Mrs Brown and her twittering as she has been aware of us for a whille. We can be found at Findenjoyshare, in case you are interested!
So there you have it. Even during a busy election battle, we have managed to get the attention of the leaders. In amongst the spin and policy all three are primarily Dads and it is their wives and kids that cast the most important vote. Thank you to all three for taking the time to look.

April 18th, 2010

The Prime Ministerial debate. If there were ever 3 families that needed a day away….

It did come to mind when watching the Prime Ministers debate on
Thursday that in amongst the policy, spin and statistic dropping were in fact 3
families. No matter what anyone thinks of the politics that
each of the candidates stand for, above all else they have families
that probably think the world of them no matter what they might do to the economy or the NHS. It is going to be a very busy
month leading up to the election and not much quieter after it. Family
time will be precious but sadly in short supply. And it is not just
the candidates for Number 10. MP’s up and down the land, Scotland,
Wales and Northern Ireland included, will be pounding the streets
trying to persuade us that their cause is better than everyone elses.
When free time comes around, even for a few hours, what can they do to
spend their time wisely with their long suffering yet proud families.
If only there was a website for families that helped them find places,
goods and services…
So people, I have decided to march on politics. I propose to contact the three up for the job at Downing Street to get them to visit familiesrecommend as a stopping off
point on their quest for supremacy. The fight might get messy but at
least they can say they had a nice afternoon out with the family on Sunday. I will let you know what replies (if any) I get back.
April 14th, 2010

Where on earth do I start…Hmm. 1982 is as good a place as any.

Ideas regarding our up-coming 1st birthday party have been coming at a tremendous pace.

Never have so many ideas been seen in one place since Sir Clive Sinclair dreamt up his compact home computer with rubber keys which ran off a tape recorder.  That particularly random mix was followed by a three wheel, seated suburban transport solution which he called the C5. Had he have given it one less wheel and invented it in 1885 he could have simply called it a bicycle. Still, you play the hand you are dealt. What he lacked in perception he made up for in vigour. He certainly was an ideas man and had he lots of them. His ZX Spectrum might have had less memory than my digital watch but I loved it. If I was able to run familiesrecommend off it today…I would. Tape recorder and all!

Well that is the Ashes to Ashes moment over with. Back to 2010. As you can gather, we have had lots of ideas and these are only as good as the people who make them a reality. I can honestly say that these ideas are brilliant. When we first thought about what we were going to do to celebrate our 1st birthday it was a bit of a struggle. We wanted to do something a little different. Give our loyal users something else that perhaps they would not normally have got from the site. From the start we always said that families, no matter how they are made up, are as important as each other.  Different things might make them tick but essentially they all want a good experience and value from their time and money. Thinking this through a bit more we contacted various people and asked if they would write a small piece on the importance of family and how quality time was spent. Thinking that this would be met with apathy was a mistake. Loads of people have been in touch to say not only very nice things about our site but to gladly send us their articles. Once we have collated the entire list there will be an official roll call on this blog. I salute the lot of you silently for the moment!

The next idea was to see if any of the various people we had contacted had anything that they might like to offer our users in the way of a birthday celebration discount or freebie. Once again, apathy was not on the menu. Various people have come forward with their kind offers. Again, there will be a roll call when they have all been collated. For the moment, thank you so much. You know who you are and everybody else will soon.

To end this post I would like to share a moment of sheer opportunism with you. On Friday 9th May I was watching BBC Breakfast news. A news item came on that was being broadcast from Beamish Museum. It was reporting the rise in people holidaying in the UK. The reporter interviewed Cath Hindle who is from Tourism Tyne and Wear. When speaking about this subject she just about described what familiesrecommend is all about. In a moment of spontaneity I fired off an e mail to her expecting it to get lost in a probably busy inbox. Not the case. She passed it on to one of her colleagues, Shelley, who not only paid our site a great compliment but also agreed to provide us with an artice for us to publish for our birthday. We thought that was enough but then came more. They provided us with 50 Discover passes to give to our users as prizes through our week long birthday celebration. We have accepted this kind offer and can’t wait to give them away. More details on this will follow. Thank you so much. You have been great.

We are waiting on responses for a few more places and will bring news of them when we find out. Once we have the final deals on the table it will be reported here first.

Well thats it. I am off to see if I can get Manic Miner and Daley Thompsons decathalon for my laptop as sadly my ZX Spectrum is long gone. Pity.

March 28th, 2010

M’aider, M’aider…("Help me", for the rest of us non French speakers!)

It seems like a long time since Christmas. The never ending snow and ice, the dark nights and the threat of heating bills causing us all financial ruin in 2010 seemed to be a symptom of the winter months. However now we are embracing the beginning of better times with an hours less sleep…Not a great start but things can only get better!

It has been a little while since our last post and that is for a good reason. We have been busy in the background sorting out, quite literally, the background. From “the front end” of the website it would appear that all we do is submit the recommendations of what our loyal army of familiesrecommend users send to us on a daily basis. Whilst this is largely true, what is also important is what goes on in the background that actually makes the site tick. Let me tell you it is not easy. I bought books on it hoping that I would be able to make sense of this new language. I dont mind telling you,  it brought feelings back to me that I have not felt since being put on the spot in GCSE French. The teacher asks you the way to the station and you tell her not only where you can buy a baguette but that you enjoy going to the cinema with friends in your spare time. It is humiliating…Mrs Foggett. God love you though. You did your best to try and stop me from getting lost if I ever went to France later in life. Only now I appreciate your efforts. It’s not you its me!

Anyhow, back to reality. After many cups of coffee and hours of head scratching I decided that I was old enough to tell language teachers that I did not care for their choice of language no matter how charming it might be and that they should speak it for me. A wholly safer strategy. In a caffeinated haze I set about finding such angels. To cut a long story short I found someone who speaks the language of the internet and agreed to help. At this point I dont want to say too much more other than a thank you to Maureen. I promise I will spill the beans on who she is soon but I have to keep a few secrets.

With all of this going on, the 1st birthday of familiesrecommend is just around the corner. We have been busy putting together some great offers that we are going to bring to our users. A provisional thank you to our generous supporters for offering some great deals to us to pass on. I will name names in a few days and also link you up. I just want to make sure that I have everybody included.

Until next time which will be a lot sooner than three months…promise

Lee