Archive for ‘Pre-School’

October 4th, 2010

Are your little ones great little dancers?

Recently Lee had a great conversation with Naomi from Baby Loves Disco UK. She told him about her latest charity venture, supporting Tommy’s with a dance-athon across the UK looking for Britain’s best little dancer. As we have a toddler ourselves, we know how much little ones love to dance and we thought we’d like to support this great charity event. I am also a big Strictly Fan, so anything dance-wise at this time of the year, is always a winner in the FR office!

So, what’s it all about then? 

Tommy's Logo

 

Between Saturday 30th October and Sunday 14th November, Baby Loves Disco events in Manchester, London, Brighton, Bristol, Glasgow, Stirling and Edinburgh, will be dedicated to raising funds for Tommy’s (*see below for exact times).  All across the country Baby Loves Disco is  transforming the hippest venues into child proof discos as toddlers, pre-schoolers and parents looking for a break from the routine playground circuit let loose for some post naptime, pre-dinner fun. Baby Loves Disco is an afternoon dance party featuring real music spun and mixed by real dj’s guaranteed to get those little booties moving and grooving.

As your little one takes to the floor in the sponsored dance-athon, celebrity judges will be on the look out for Britain’s Best Little Dancer. They’ll have to dance non-stop for three songs – no mean feat for tiny feet!

Butlins logoThere’s a family weekend break at Butlins** to be won for Britain’s Best Little Dancer, the highest fundraiser will win Peppa Pig products, tickets to Waterworld & Twinlakes Park as well as a personalised picture from Marmaladepaws.com and a family ticket to the Baby Loves Disco of your choice.

 

 

How can I take part?

Just choose which city you want to go to and buy your tickets now!   Once you’ve purchased your ticket you will be directed to set up an online personal fundraising page. You can email a link to your page to all your family and friends, so they can sponsor your child simply and securely online. You can add a photo and a personal message to your page, plus create a special ‘thank you email’ to everyone who donates.

We are asking all little participants to try and raise at least £20 – this would pay for a midwife to answer calls for an hour speaking to up to 10 worried parents. If 500 dancers raise £20 this would mean a staggering £10,000, enough to pay for a research assistant on a research trial.

Don’t delay – buy your ticket to the hottest disco in town today!
 
 

Why fundraise for Tommy’s?

The money you raise by taking part in the Baby Loves Disco’s dance-athon will have a direct impact on saving babies’ lives.

At Tommy’s we know there is no experience more harrowing than losing a baby. Helping women to understand pregnancy and complications during pregnancy is at the core of what we at Tommy’s do. We rely on donations in order to continue to offer services such as our midwife-run Pregnancy Information Line and to further develop our research programs and clinical trials to reduce the number of stillbirths, premature births and miscarriages experienced each year.

*Event locations, dates and times:

Saturday 30th October – Bristol (2-5pm)

Sunday 31st October
– Edinburgh (2-5pm) with celebrity judge Amanda Hamilton, Manchester (2-5pm) with celebrity judge Terri Dwyer

Sunday 7th November
– Stirling (1-4pm), London Stratford (2-5pm), Brighton (2-5pm)

Sunday 14th November – Glasgow (2-5pm) with celebrity judge Kaye Adams, London Nottinghill (2-5pm)

Good luck to all the competitors, and we hope you all raise lots of money for such a great cause! For more information visit Baby Loves Disco

KEEP DANCING!

September 22nd, 2010

Benefits of music

Karen Sherr, founder of Musical Minis tells us of the educational and developmental benefits of music at a young age.

Music is a universal language that knows no social, racial or other type of barrier. Each generation enjoys its own ‘pop’ music; each culture has its own rhythms. A variety of traditional songs and stories can be used to close the generation and culture gaps.  It is hard to ignore the influence that music has on our day to day lives. There are many studies which show the link between learning and music. Whether you are in the “for” or “against” camp in respect of the Mozart Theory (music helps with maths), what is undoubted is that music stimulates the mind and assists with cognitive development. Through music children can develop language, listening skills, coordination and social skills.

Music has many of the building blocks of language, not just the basic vocabulary and words but also its rhythm. Research by educational psychologists has concluded that music is a strong motivator which encourages children to develop new skills, including:-

•     learning to look and listen in a group situation (rather than one to one).

•     learning to interact with other children and non-parent adults.

•    developing control and hand to eye co-ordination.

•    discovering ways of expressing themselves through gesture and movement.

•    becoming practised in listening to the sounds of words, encouraging speech development

Children should be exposed to music in an interactive setting as early as possible.  A well structured music group will ensure integration, provide an opportunity to share experiences, will be child centred and will be designed to assist parents and carers to join in activities. When shared between adult and child it can be both great fun and educational.

Musical Minis focuses on the benefits pre-school children can gain from joining the sessions. The programme uses music to aid child development but doesn’t focus on teaching music. Musical Minis is an active music programme whereby each structured session helps children be:

♫       Skilful communicators by developing language and co-ordination.

♫       Emotionally developed through sharing stories and songs whilst meeting new friends.

♫       Confident children by joining in the activities in a relaxed group atmosphere.

♫       Creative children by letting the children explore the instruments, sounds, rhythm and movement.

Regular participation at a music session also has a positive impact upon the carer (most particularly mothers) and their ability to relate to their children and other adults. Adult co-operation is encouraged within our Musical Minis programme. It is needed in helping the child understand, for example, when an instrument needs to be played. This and other interaction encourages the mother and child to work together establishing a platform for good parenting skills. At the session new mothers can join in the fun, bonding with their babies. The child development aims of the programme are explained to attending carers.

Karen Sherr is the founder of Musical Minis, a national franchise of music groups for babies and toddlers.  Contact Karen by phoning 020 8868 0001 or email: enquiries @musicalminis.co.uk www.musicalminis.co.uk

September 22nd, 2010

Dancing for Toddlers

 Anne-Marie Wilkins of Diddi Dance tells us how dancing at preschool age can help instill the benefits of excercise for life.

Does your toddler rarely want to sit still? Do they have what feels like endless energy? Feel like you’ve tried everything to tire them out? Why not try dancing. ……

Dancing even for the under 4s is not only a great way of keeping fit and active but it’s also GREAT FUN! If you find the right style that your toddler loves then they can learn key skills too. Dancing helps with co-ordination and gross motor skills as well as rhythm. Dance is also a great confidence builder and can help with social skills.

Dance is just for girls though right? Wrong, if your toddler is a boy you’ll know he wants to jump around to his favourite music just as much as his female friends. He may not want to be a ballerina or fairy but give him a toy guitar and he’s a rock and roll star! Plus boys need tiring out just as much, if not more than girls and what better way to do this than 45 minutes of jumping, turning, galloping, moving and shaking?

With obesity rates in under 4s at their highest right now exercise is so important to avoid this continuing into later life. Exercise should be enjoyed. In the first few years of every child’s life how they view exercise is instilled and their view will stay with them for life so teach them that it can be great fun. Dance is an ideal way of doing this. Put on music and let them do their own thing at home or find a funky session that teaches all the key elements in a professional and fun way.  You want to make sure the teacher is inspiring and full of energy to keep the children engaged. The session should be action packed and full of exciting props and catchy music so they cant resist getting up to join in.

To see if you have a funky dance class in your area why not look up Diddi Dance. The sessions are taught by experienced professionals following inspiring lesson plans that explore lots of different dance styles from hip hop to salsa and country to rock and roll.

Find out more at www.diddidance.com if you don’t currently have classes locally then don’t worry we are recruiting enthusiastic energetic franchisees across the country all the time so there will be a class near you very soon!

September 20th, 2010

Baby signing (part 2)

Part 2 of our Baby Signing feature, Shelley Ensor from Little Signers Club tells us all about how you can start communication with your child way before they even start talking.

Baby signing provides incredible insight into your baby’s world, long before they have a chance to speak their first words. Witness the transition of a squalling infant to a confident communicating baby.  

“Taking Sam to baby signing classes was a crucial turning point and the best decision I have ever made in what had been a hard and emotional first six months of being a Mummy.  I truly believe that baby signing opened a gateway in his mind, enhanced his brain development and helped him to become a calmer, more communicative baby. 

No frustration, no fidgeting…instead there were smiles, laughter and one contented little boy who I was at last able to understand and enjoy.” Frances, baby signing Mummy to Sam

As if by magic, your baby becomes a person with imagination, thought and a personality.  Being with your baby is even more fun, you look for their response, curiosity and input – in short your interaction with your baby, and thus your bonding process, is more engaging.  Not only that, it can be put into practice with every baby, hearing or otherwise.  Signing with your baby is something that the whole family can get involved in – mum, dad, siblings and other relatives or care givers – and see equal rewards.  

“I think somehow it’s easier for mums to develop ways of communicating with babies, they seem innately able to read those subtle cues, tell the difference between cries, but baby signing unlocks some of these mysteries for everyone. As a father I feel like I can meet my son’s needs now. When he first signed to me that he needed a nappy change (at 4 months old!), and he did, I was bowled over!”   Ben, baby signing Daddy to Fin

Scientifically proven benefits:

The amount of research in the area of pre-speech communication is staggering.  For over 30 years Dr Joseph Garcia, the world’s leading authority on baby signing, has been providing some of the most exciting and authoritative research in this field.  So what are the benefits of signing with your baby?  Here are just a few of the recognised (and scientifically proven) benefits:

•Removes distress and therefore a baby’s need to cry in order to get what they may need.  

•Reduces your baby’s stress levels and the release of the stress hormone cortisol in both baby and parent.

•Provides your baby with and easy way to communicate with you – before they can talk!

•Strengthens the bond between you and your baby, helping to develop secure attachment

•Increases your baby’s confidence

•Better and more complex language development – generally at an earlier age.

•Really helpful for multi-lingual families as the sign remains the same whatever language(s) you may use

•When speech begins, signing can help you to distinguish what your baby actually means leading to less frustration and anger.  

•Reinforces memory and creative skills

•Helps in the development of language and literacy skills which is at the heart of young children’s learning; children need to communicate effectively to learn and develop other skills

A note on development

At 12-15 months, babies have just ten words most of which will be unclear.  At the same age, they have sufficient motor control to use many signs to communicate their needs to their parents.  

With the suggestion that up to 90% of toddler tantrums are due to just 4 needs and their inability to express clearly their need to eat, drink, sleep or receive comfort.

The use of 4 simple signs could reduce that frustration and with huge focus on the detrimental effects of stress on babies at the moment, it’s possible to see why using signing could help to relieve stress very easily.

Sadly, there is still a huge misconception that sign language is just for the hard of hearing or those with special educational needs. In some circles it’s considered a fad, not necessary for development. But the research is compelling and what’s more, it’s becoming more and more commonplace as parents become aware of the amazing insight they get into their little ones world. Let’s not forget that deaf parents sign with their babies from birth, be they hearing babies or not.

As our babies become pre-schoolers, verbal communication comes more naturally but our little ones are trying to get to grips with some huge emotional development – anger, frustration, tears, joy, happiness, sorry, love………and there is all that physical development too. Its long been advocated that you should help your child to identify their emotions by statements such as “I can see that you are really cross with Mummy right now, but the answer is no” or “You look so happy – being on the swings is such fun!” but what if you could help your child to take that one step further? By using sign language at the same time as making these statements, you then empower your child to identify and communicate their own feelings instead of projecting what you think is the problem for them.

Without a shadow of doubt, the most frustrating time of life is in the second year of a child’s life (12-24 months) and it is during this period that baby signing really does make a real and lasting difference. In a swirling vortex of development and sensory overload, children who don’t know how to communicate their feelings easily resort to lashing out or biting or meltdowns.

 

Toddlers and Pre-schoolers

Although our children have generally started to communicate using speech by this point, moving into the pre-school years there are still issues.  Sometimes the words themselves are overwhelming.   Children can’t think of the correct word or they have so much that they want to say that the words will not form. They stutter and stumble trying to communicate, becoming more and more frustrated with themselves when using just a few gestures can alleviate this problem for them until they are more confident with the necessary vocabulary.  Signing also helps you, the parent, to discern what your child means and you can gently correct their pronunciation.

I have the situation at home with my 3 year old who at the drop of a hat and for no seeming reason, resorts to tantrums. Her vocabulary is excellent; her use of language, for her age, astounding. She is a confident and articulate child most of the time, a common outcome with most signing babies.  Why the tantrums? Life is simply overwhelming for her. She can’t cope with everything that assails her senses on a daily basis and when she is tired, she loses the ability to communicate clearly what she wants or what has upset her with speech. So instead, I talk to her and ask her to show me, with her signs, how I can help her. It benefits us both – firstly she has my absolute and undivided attention as I have to be completely focused on her to see her signs and secondly, she can tell me that she needs a cuddle, that she’s tired, hungry or wants her bear. The storm passes and calm is restored.

From babies to grandparents – we can all benefit from learning to sign. It’s so simple, readily available quite literally at your fingertips – and contrary to popular belief, results in more confident little ones with better speech development at an earlier age than their peers when done correctly.

Find out more

The results of baby signing are so convincing that thousands of people now sign with babies throughout the country.  It’s recommended that you start signing with your baby from 5 months.

Our Top Tips on how to get started with baby signing

1.Is your baby clapping and waving?  Then your baby is definitely ready to begin!

2.Pick a few signs, relevant to your family, that you are happy to do consistently.  It’s easier to remember and concentrate on 6 or 10 rather than dozens of signs.

3.Always say the word as you sign it

4.Make sure you have eye contact with your baby!

5.Repetition, Repetition – Repetition.  The more you sign, the more likely it is that your baby will copy you

6.Is your baby staring at you, laughing at you, getting excited when you sign to them?  If so, you can be sure they are taking it all in…

7.Have fun!  Babies love to laugh and signing is a great way to engage them.

FIVE SIGNS TO GET YOU STARTED: (click to view larger)

© sign graphics Cath Smith from the LET’S SIGN Serieswww.DeafBooks.co.uk

You can find out more about learning to sign with your little one, tips on how to start and the numerous benefits at http://www.littlesignersclub.co.uk

© Little Signers Club June 2010

Baby signing has never been as popular as a means of pre-speech communication.

 

With increasing interest in using sign language with children under five, Signing Hands; Baby Signing Basics has been developed to help parents and carers access sign language easily and affordably.

 Produced in collaboration with leading British Sign Language author Cath Smith and authored by experienced baby signing teacher Lizzie Betts, this starter guide to baby signing has been illustrated in an enchanting collage style by Jo Cauldrick, which will delight babies and parents alike.

With first signs, engaging pictures, tips and exercises Signing Hands; Baby Signing Basics quickly and simply shows parents how to communicate with their babies correctly through the use of sign language.  

“Who wouldn’t want their child to be the first amongst their peers to be communicating, to be the most chilled out, to be happier, to have a real head-start?”

 Available from 1st September 2010 from Little Learner Books  - www.littlelearnerbooks.co.uk

 

COMPETITION!

Shelley is giving away 3 copies of the above book ‘Signing Hands; Baby Signing Basics’. To enter the competition, click here. (The competition is open until 15 October 2010). Winners will be notified by Shelley after this date.

September 15th, 2010

Baby signing (part one)

In the first part of our feature on baby signing guest blogger, Louise Gibbs from Baby Signing Mummy tells us of her experience of Baby Signing.

Hi! I am Louise and I run Baby Signing Mummy. I am mummy to a beautiful three and half year old called Isabella and she is the main reason I now teach baby sign language. You may or may not have heard of baby sign language and I hope I will cover your questions through this article. If you have heard of it, you will know that in the UK there has been a growing trend over the last few years, baby sign language is simple – it teaches you as parents simple hand gestures based on British Sign Language and Makaton to facilitate communication between you and your baby.

 To some this idea does sound a little strange – why try to get your baby to talk to you before they are ready? My answer is always the same, just because a baby is not developmentally ready to talk to you, it does not mean that they don’t want to explore all the wonderful things they see and hear during the day. You are the most important thing in your baby’s life, they are looking to you to show them and explain to them the world around them. By talking to them while you make a sign they begin to learn the association between the sign and the word and before you know it they will be signing back to you!

Now rather than inundating you with research that proves the benefits of signing – or explaining some of the wild claims that have been made about baby sign language (almost a whole article in itself!) I thought I would provide you with examples of how baby sign language has made an impact on my life both as a mummy and an expert baby signer. I am, by background a paediatric nurse and I have over 10 years experience of working with  children within a variety of backgrounds. I was first introduced to Makaton whilst working closely with a child with Autism, he had no speech and communicating with him was extremely difficult. I was taken a back when he one day stopped what he was doing, looked me in the face and signed 3 words. Drink, orange and please. He had been distressed but by being able to understand him and getting him a drink he was no longer upset, distressed or frustrated. This early introduction opened up a whole new world to me and I never realized just how important it was until I had my daughter.

My world was turned upside down at the arrival of this perfect little bundle – that just cried! My family and friends expected me as a paediatric nurse to be able to cope with a baby of my own, and I had my own expectations of myself. The steep learning curve that is parenthood is the most difficult thing I have done in my life – the first few months with Isabella were so very hard with lots of sleepless nights for her and me. With the so called baby brain in full swing it never occurred to me to use sign language with her until I was looking for an activity for us to do together. Suddenly it was like a fire had been lit inside me. Of course, why hadn’t I already thought about it? I did a little bit of research on the webnet and could see how related baby sign language was to Makaton and British Sign Language. I started signing with Isabella immediately, she was only five months old and I had failed up until this point to establish a regular routine with her, but I found that by talking to her and explaining what we were doing through signs and words that she became calmer and stopped crying quite so much. By signing lots of silly made up songs and putting in lots of animals signs (have you tried signing Cow in the Supermarket queue? – try it, see how many strange looks you get!) I had a happy giggling little girl that gazed at me and the world around us.

I had to persevere with the signs though, I easily could have lost heart as it was not until she was eight months old that she signed back to me. In the end it wasn’t so important that she signed to me as I knew that we understood each other, a very special bond had been created, she would look straight at me in new environments waiting for me to tell her where we were and what we were doing there. I chatted (or sung) non-stop to her and eventually when she started signing back it came pouring out of her!

One of my favourite signing stories with her is when she was sat in her high chair during tea, she had food everywhere trying to feed herself, she was smiling looked up at me and signed more please, I giggled and asked whether she wanted more to eat using the sign for eat, she shook her head but signed more please again. I asked whether she wanted more to make a mess with, with this she repeatedly signed more getting very excited. There was a small amount of the fruit in the bowl left so I gave it to her, she looked me in the eye and copied me when I said and signed ‘Thank you’ We had just enjoyed our first full conversation. I was over come with love and emotion for her (and she may have received a thousand cuddles and kisses for it too!)

Although this may seem a simple story I hope it begins to put some light on why I am an advocate for baby sign language, I have so many stories that I could share with you from my own experiences with Isabella to those of parents who I have taught that have come skipping back into class telling me excitedly of their little ones first sign. Every baby is different, Isabella took a while to sign back but I regularly hear and see younger babies signing back to their parents.

I now have a very active and chatty three and half year old. She still uses signs when she is somewhere different and feeling shy, but she also happens to have communication skills that are ahead of her peers. Her sentence structure and language development amazes me daily – it can sometimes feel like I am talking to a little old lady as she talks her way through her day “well first mummy, I did….”

The world of baby signing is addictive, fun and interactive. This is just a small taster of my knowledge and experience of baby sign language, I hope this short introduction has spurred you to find out more and to give it a try. If you still have questions, then I hope I can help. Baby Signing Mummy is me, predominantly a mummy, who understands those sleepless nights and inconsolable crying episodes! So why not let me, my health professional background, degree in paediatrics, mummy experience and love of baby signing help you join this amazing journey – I guarantee you will be hooked!

Visit me at www.babysigningmummy.com or come and say hi on Twitter www.twitter.com/babysigningmum or Facebook www.facebook.com/babysigningmummy

September 8th, 2010

Learning to listen

Libby Hill from Smart Talkers discusses the decline of listening skills

We take the development of communication for granted but it is actually the best achievement of our lifetime. There, is however,  a very alarming national decline in speech, language and communication skills which means that at least 40,000 children started school in 2009 without adequate spoken language ability (Wright, J., 2009) and a Government report in 2008 showed that this can be as high as 50% of children in some areas (Bercow, J.). The Government’s Communication Tsar Jean Gross, reported that ‘at least’ 1 in every 6 three year olds has a recognised difficulty while many, many more were undetected. Today’s demands of the reception class teacher are tremendous yet the children are starting school without the necessary pre-requisite skills. Spoken language skills are the building blocks for written language and almost every educational task pre-supposes a certain level of ability.

I carried out a study recently involving 100 schools across the country, which showed 100 % Primary Head Teachers were extremely concerned about declining speech, language and communication skills. The main problem they believed was a lack of listening skills.

We live in a very visual, fast- paced age and often the first time a child is required to do any formal listening is when they start school. Many, many children have to be taught to attend and listen before they can begin the demands of the national curriculum. I started my Small Talker groups to try to address this issue.  We work on ‘active listening’.

A lot of parents and staff will repeatedly say “Listen!” But what does that mean to a 3 year old? Listening is not a passive skill, it’s an active one and therefore one that needs to be learned. We tend to get quite poor results if we say “Behave!” to our little ones. It means very little, whereas if we describe the behaviour we want, they are more likely to understand what we require of them and then we might have some chance of them doing what we’ve asked. For example, if we want them to be quiet, sit still and not run around in the GP waiting room it better to tell them that than ask them to ‘Behave!’ Many parents and lots of teachers know this and act accordingly. We need to treat listening the same way.

Active listening can be broken down in to:

•good sitting

•good looking

•good waiting

•good thinking

You wouldn’t expect good thinking until school age and it’s very hard to do good waiting as a 3 or 4 year old (it’s hard enough for this 47 year old to wait if she’s got something to say!) Which is why they find it hard to wait for their turn or to let others answer a question to which they know the answer.

Our Small Talker groups (for 3 and 4 year olds) work on the first 3 components of active listening. We use a puppet to demonstrate ‘not good’ sitting so that he actually mirrors some of their behaviours e.g. picking the carpet to picking their noses. They are asked to help the puppet ‘because he’s not naughty, he’s just got to learn’. They have to look for the ‘un-desired’ behaviour and say ‘stop, do good sitting’. They are usually excellent at identifying the behaviour in the puppet although they may still be doing the same themselves for a while. Afterwards, I put the puppet where he can ‘watch’ them do good sitting so he can learn by example. I then monitor the behaviour in a very positive way so that I praise good sitting (and the wriggly ones usually sit up in an aim to please) or if that doesn’t work I ask the wriggly ones to help the puppet by showing him ‘good sitting’. If they are constantly nagged to sit still or to listen, they will switch off. It’s amazing how well they respond to this approach. I have had a few run-ins with TA’s and parents who have been completely peed off with my approach because they are itching to dictate ‘Will you sit still, now!’ However, I’ve asked them to trust me and watch what happens even if I am irritating them….  we’ve had some great results!
www.smarttalkers.org.uk or www.smalltalk-ltd.co.uk

or visit our blog: smarttalkers.blogspot.com

About Me:

I’m Libby Hill, single parent to 2 young boys. I’m a specialist speech and language therapist with Small Talk Independent Speech and Language Therapy, which I set up in 2007. We’re now a team of Therapists and assistants that covers Staffordshire. We also run Smart Talkers Pre-School Communication Groups, which is a series of pre-school classes concentrating on communication, which are available to franchise across the country.

September 6th, 2010

Starting school, big decisions and worries

We have a guest blogger, who would like to remain anonymous, who talks about the worries of her son starting school too early.

I know that every parent worries about their child going to school, will they make friends? Will they know what to do? Will they be able to cope?

These questions seem big in my mind at the moment, as my son who has just turned three should be starting school not this September but next (he will have just turned four). He has a rare condition, which has slowed his development. But his paediatrician thinks that he should be able to attend mainstream school with support. That pleases me immensely.

However, what doesn’t please me and which keeps me awake at night (and which is creating a lump in my throat as I type) is the difficulty we have trying to make sense of the various agencies and bodies involved in School entry for a special needs child.

We talked to a local primary school headmaster, who kindly agreed to discuss our son’s situation and give the opinion of the people who would be teaching him. Basically he said, we should try and defer him a year, to give him a chance to catch up. This was something we had always wanted to do, as our son was also born prematurely and ended up in an earlier school year than he should have been born into (Born in July but due in October).

So you would think this would be straightforward. We met with the officials of the LEA, who were very nice but basically said, you don’t need to send him to school until the September after his 5th birthday but he would enter straight into year one, not reception class. That’s not what we want. We want to defer him so he has the extra year to catch up developmentally and start his education like he would have done had he been born in October. But we can’t do that apparently as he could leave school legally at 16 without completing his compulsory education. Oh PLEASE!

So decisions on my son’s ability to start school are being based on something that could happen in 13 years time. And as I see it, lots of kids leave school without completing their education at 15 – so the argument to me is a little flawed. Plus – just meeting my husband and myself you would see that we are well educated, dedicated to our son and utterly behind our son staying at school until he has finished his compulsory education.

What I am concerned about is that my son will be overwhelmed by school (even reception class) if he starts when they expect him to. It’s well known that babies born prematurely take longer to catch up developmentally than their peers and then add into the mix a developmentally delaying condition. It seems to make sense to me and everyone I talk to about it. I don’t want an unhappy child who cannot cope with school because we have been forced to send him there before he is ready.

Ok, you are probably thinking that I am over reacting. And perhaps I am. But I know my son and his abilities.

Our speech therapist has been amazing, and is organising for us to see the local educational psychologist, and my husband has been in touch with our paediatrician and health visitor – who can see our argument is based on fact not supposition. It’s a minefield of who to speak to and what you need to do and by when. I am worrying about it now even though its a whole year off. I still have that lump in my throat as I finish.

September 3rd, 2010

Choosing a school

Guest blogger, Emma Salt tells us of her decision to send her child to an independent school.

After 9 months of pregnancy, 3 years of watching a tiny helpless baby grow into a wilful but fun toddler, it’s finally time to decide where he or she will go to school.  If your local state school is a good primary school with above average SAT results and a high league table position, there probably isn’t much of a decision to make.  If, however, the local school is the wrong side of average, and it feeds a secondary school that has been in and out of special measures for the last ten years, there are lots of discussions and decisions to make.

We found ourselves in this position 11.5 years ago when our eldest (and only at the time) son was 2.5.  He was already at a day nursery while I went to university, and in addition to the description above, our local school could only offer full time, mornings or afternoons.  With my uni course, I needed 3 full days a week, but as Macro would only be 3 when he started school, I wanted to spend my days off with him.  We looked briefly at other state schools in the area, but, to be honest, they weren’t much better.  We then looked round a private school that’s only 3 miles from where we live.  The school was amazing.  The head teacher knew all the children by name, there were no more than 20 in a class, the children were all incredibly polite and confident, and after looking round, we knew that’s where we wanted him to go.

Neither of us had been to private schools, although my parents had moved when I was 11 so I could go to a state grammar school, and my mum won a scholarship to a private school when she was little.  My parents were supportive of our decision, although worried about the long term financial implications.  Hubby’s parents were a little more hesitant.  His mum was the first to come round, and shared my parent’s concerns over cost.  His dad took longer to accept our decision.  His attitude was that you shouldn’t have to pay for a decent education, and that the more parents like us who deserted the local school the worse it would get.  I agreed with everything he said, in theory, but was not willing to sacrifice my son’s education.

We discussed and discussed the pros and cons, but the only con that we kept coming up with was the cost.  Nursery vouchers would help until I graduated, and I had student loans that had paid for a year in a day nursery so far, and could top up the nursery vouchers for another 2 years.  At the time, we only had one child, and had no immediate plans to have any more, so the plan was that after graduation whatever I earned had to cover school fees and holidays!

We have had ups and downs over the last 11 years.  Macro was diagnosed with severe dyslexia when he was 7.  I had challenged the school for two years, and finally had him assessed during the summer hols.  After a several teething troubles with how to deal with his dyslexia, the school became very supportive.  They also do lots of sport and music, and Macro became a regular in the rugby and cricket teams, and played trumpet in the school orchestra.

When Micro came along, we were obviously going to have to find the extra fees when he was 3, because, to be honest, we couldn’t send one to the private school and the other to the local state school, so we tightened our belts even more, and now they are both at private school. 

I wouldn’t say it’s a struggle to find the fees each term, but it’s not always easy – especially when the bill for the Easter term arrives just before Christmas.  Macro has won a sports scholarship from September which will be a huge help. We have made lifestyle choices that allow us to keep the boys at school, but I definitely wouldn’t call them sacrifices.  We usually holiday in the UK before the state schools break up, saving money but also beating most of the queues, and where we holiday is beautiful and would be very hard to beat.  Our house is lovely, and plenty big enough for the four of us, but isn’t any more than we need.  We do lots of things together, have takeaways more than we go out for meals, but we don’t go without.  Macro has less pocket money than most of his friends, but has learnt the art of saving and budgeting. 

We have never regretted our decision to send the boys to private school.  It was right for us, and for them.  Macro is about to start year 9, option year, and the flexibility of private schools means that he should be able to take all 3 sciences, but as he has dyslexia he can drop a modern language so that he can have learning support.  Micro has just finished reception, and because of the rapport we have with the school, and because they have specialist staff, he has had some sessions of one to one tuition to help with phonics as we think he may be dyslexic too. 

We are lucky that the school is so close.  I have friends from school who drive an hour each way to take their children.  I think if that had been the option open to us – a good private school an hour’s drive away – we would have chosen state schools, but I would encourage everyone to trust your heart and gut instinct, and choose the right school for your child, whether state or private, single sex or co-ed.

June 29th, 2010

Suzanne from Kindermusik tells familiesrecommend about her passion for bringing music to pre school children

Suzanne Dunn runs Kindermusik classes in Newcastle upon Tyne. She is our most reviewed business on the familiesrecommend.co.uk website, and she has kindly written us an article about her love of bringing music to pre-school children in her area.

My name is Suzanne Dunn and I’m a 40 something wife of 17 years to Malcolm, and mum to Melissa (almost 17), Amelia (14) and Alice (12), not forgetting Freddie the lurcher (12 months), and I have had the wonderful privilege of teaching Kindermusik to families in our region for the past 5 years. Having grown up with a love of music, dance and singing, and having loved being a member of several choirs over my younger years I worked abroad for a number of years before getting married and having children.  As my children grew up and all showed an interest in music, and dance, I decided to put my talents to good use and began teaching my own music and movement programme in local nurseries.  This was a thoroughly enjoyable time for me, and very busy as the number of nurseries I visited grew rapidly over a short time.  However when I stumbled upon Kindermusik in 2005 I realised that this was a far superior programme to anything I could put together myself, and with over 30 years of Kindermusik expertise it really was something that I wanted to be a part of.  I felt that although I loved working in nurseries I also wanted to bring parents and their children together through the Kindermusik programme, and be there to witness their enjoyment as they progressed through the curriculum.

So, I did look at pretty much every other music programme before I decided upon Kindermusik but Kindermusik really stood out as being a very hands on programme that parents could participate in with their children in such a warm, loving and demonstrative fashion.  I looked at how Kindermusik supported the EYFS, or Birth to 5 matters as it was at the time, in particular how it allows each child to respond and learn in their own unique way and at their own pace. There is never any set expectation or instruction that you must do it this way or that way.  I loved the fact that children and babies are constantly encouraged to find new ways of holding, playing, exploring and moving. I know that parents are first and foremost the most important teacher a child can ever have, and I love working with parents, encouraging them to learn with and from their little one be it in group activities or as an individual.

I came across a wonderful quote very early on in my Kindermusik teaching days and I constantly refer back to it to remind myself:  “Parenthood brings as much joy as ever, but it still brings boredom, exhaustion, and sorrow too.  Nothing else will ever make you as happy or as sad, as proud or as tired, for nothing is quite as hard as helping a person develop his individuality – especially while you struggle to keep your own” – Elia Parsons

I love to share this quote with parents, as it reminds us all what an important job we are doing in parenting, which even though it doesn’t come with a manual and really is the most difficult job we will ever have to do, is certainly one of the most rewarding.  I absolutely love my classes, watching parents face to face with their little ones, loving the bounces, skipping, rocking or even just relaxing together.

I encourage parents within my groups to email me and let me know if they’ve experienced responses at home to our programme, we use take home packs each term allowing families the opportunity to recreate their class time at home with other family members all week long. Quite often a mum will email telling me that they’ve tried a particular dance at home and noticed that their baby is waving right at the moment that we would be waving in class, a delighted mummy and I love that she has shared that with me.

Most of my classes are filled by recommendations, something that we should all do; if I find a great dog sitter, hairdresser even taxi driver then I’m certain that I’m going to tell everyone I know about it.  I was very impressed with the familiesrecommend website so I shared it with all my families, who clearly loved it too as they keep leaving recommendations. After all in this economic climate none of us have time or money to waste on a service that is not going to deliver, so far better to take someone else’s recommendations. My families are encouraged to share their views via your site, aswell as others, and I’m delighted that so many of them have been so positive views.

Kindermusik runs 6 days a week in Ponteland, Monday to Saturday, with a variety of morning and afternoon sessions available.  Groups are split into age and developmentally appropriate sessions, 0-18 months then 18 months – 4 years. Terms run in 13 week blocks January to April, April to July and September to December.  Parents are able to come along to a free taster session before they register, although I usually recommend joining a 5 week taster course ather than just attend one as often children take several weeks or months to settle into a new environment, and become familiar with our activities and routines.  The home packs really help build this familiarity and with regular use we see confidence building very quickly during the term.  All weekday classes have coffee/tea/cake and chat time before or after the session, so it gives the parents a great chance to have a proper chat and lets the children enjoy free exploration time. The cost of baby classes (Village is the name of this programme) is approximately £7 per week, which includes the home materials of cd, books, instrument and t-shirt whilst the older group (Our Time) is approximately £8 per week, in this pack is a double cd, books, instrument, bag and t-shirt. These materials are to be used throughout the whole of the 13 week term providing excellent value.  Parents are able to pay in instalments, by cheque or direct bank transfer.

Benefits from Kindermusik classes are endless, first of all both parent and child get immense enjoyment, having laughed, cuddled, danced, sang and relaxed together. Their relationship is enhanced through our small groups and the activities that we provide.  As the teacher I work to alleviate any fears or anxiety experienced by children, or adults, coming into sessions. I know its my role to connect with families and help them to feel confident and safe so that their child feels comfortable and secure enough to try out new things and develop independence.  Each individual session, and term, is specifically designed to include an engaging range of age and developmentally appropriate activities which promote all the major areas of growth and learning.  Within this broader focus each session and activity has the flexibility to build upon families’ immediate needs, interests, responses and achievements.

Children and babies are physically and emotionally involved in play experiences though an exciting mix of pretend play and imaginary activities, instruments and object exploration providing lively and stimulating experiences with a wide variety of different music from around the world. In each session, in our after class emails and through our regular blogs tips, explanations and information is given to parents regarding why we do things and the benefits of activities for their child’s growth and development.  This to me is the single most important difference between Kindermusik and any other class, in that there is a reason for every activity we use in class, and these are explained to parents and shown how they benefit their child.

September brings even more classes throughout the week opening at our Ponteland studio, and I’ve also been approached to open classes in a new location (more to follow on this one once I’ve set days and times). I hope to see even more families coming to us, and keeping me on my toes, literally, even more!  In 2009 and 2010 I was nominated in the WO4LO awards for ‘Most Outstanding Class Leader’, something that I was enormously proud of as I was nominated by my Kindermusik families. I would be thrilled to be nominated again next year.  It’s a real pleasure to see families coming back with baby number two, or even three for a whole new Kindermusik journey and I’m hoping that the forthcoming years will bring just as much pleasure to Kindermusik families old and new, and of course me.  It was one of the best decisions I ever made to teach Kindermusik, I can’t think of anything else that I would rather be doing.

Suzanne Dunn

To read all of the reviews that Suzanne has for her Kindermusik class, please visit her page by clicking here

April 26th, 2010

Days out for Pre-School toddlers to teenagers and activities for the rest of us

Had a great meeting with Shelley from Tourism Tyne and Wear today. We sat down to see what we could do for each other in the promotion of days out for families. So far, they have given us 50 Discover Passes to give away to the first 50 people who leave a review on places to go, places to eat, days out with the children, days out with the grandparents, pre-school activities….anything….The only stipulation is that the review is for something in the North East and is between the 8th-16th May (our birthday celebration week). This is a great start for anyone wanting to find great places to go in the North East. Following on from that, Shelley and I arranged a meeting to see how we could continue to promote places that our users had found and enjoyed. It is a little early to go into too much detail right now but needless to say it was a very good meeting and I hope that we can work together on future projects to the benefit of both Tourism Tyne and Wear and Familiesrecommend users. We were also introduced to the team behind Juice Festival. A celebration of the creativity of children and young people aged 0-18 which will be held between Wednesday 20th – Sunday 31st October 2010. This is a huge event spread across NewcastleGateshead and because of this demands its very own blog post. So that is exactly what it is going to get. Again, needless to say, it was great to meet today with Rachael and David from Juice and hope that we get loads of feedback from our loyal army of users on this great festival. I will blog this separately so not to “Dilute the Juice“. I have been waiting all day to crack that one!

Lee